Finding the Good in All Situations

Sometimes bad or unfortunate events take place in our lives. The immediate response to this negative perception of the situation is to become emotional and rooted in worst case scenarios or ideas. I have personally suffered with this in many situations throughout my life. It has become ever increasingly important to me and my mental well being to look at the good that comes from all situations even those that tend to make us feel like they are negative. For example, a speeding ticket. It seems bad when it happens. Yes, we have excuses as to why we may have been speeding. We are in a hurry or we are not paying attention or we are responding to some type of emergency. Fair enough but consider this. What if you saw it from the perspective that the ticket you just received prevented you from running over a small child that darted out into traffic just minutes after you were stopped. You could also see it as avoiding an accident that may be waiting around the next corner caused or as a result of speeding on your part. All in all, the good situations that we find ourselves in very rarely yield negative emotions. The bad or challenging ones often do.


I recently went through a situation that placed a ton of stress on me. It was all encompassing to me at the time and as a result of this I made it all encompassing to those around me. This created stress, tension, angst and morose amongst my loved ones and friends. My lack of ability to soothe myself caused me to look outside of myself for that satiation. As you might expect, the soothing from friends and loved ones only went so far. After a while, I lost strength at the core of myself. I started to question myself. Then I started to question those around me. I questioned their love and devotion. I questioned why they were behaving so poorly towards me. It caused a lot of unneeded tension and sadness for everyone involved.  It was not until the mistakes had been made that I finally realized through the help of a very special friend that I love dearly what was occurring was not anyone's wrongdoing or unsympathetic action. It was in fact my constant drawing upon others to satiate my ego. In thinking that others were disappointed or walking out on relationships, I created an illusion in my mind that almost became my reality with several of my relationships. Damage occurred in relationships that I am responsible for fixing and working through.


The ironic part of this whole story is that during all of this mayhem I received opportunities to sell services from a business that I had been apart from for several years and also had the opportunity to begin developing content that I was passionate about for the internet that was still paying $300-$1000 per month after two years of no activity on my part. I was contacted and am in negotiations now with a promoter that wants me to write a book and go on a speaking tour. I was able to procure legal help that is resolving the issues with my past employer in my favor. I finally woke up and saw that the time had obviously come to part ways with my past employer so I could pursue other opportunities. It took me two months and many sleepless nights to figure that out. I am lucky. I feel like I had a valuable experience and that it has given me the spiritual strength to continue my journey. Hopefully this story will help you to recognize this when it happens and not two months of stress.


No Nonsense Approach:

Be careful to look for the good in all situations that you avoid undue stress, anxiety and possible damage to relationships and your spirit. Take a second to center yourself through self soothing and go through the experience knowing that you have exactly what you need and are perfect just as you are in that moment. Whatever happens does not affect who or what you are.

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